Can you be intentional about falling in love? (Bonus Post)

I am running a bit low on time today, so we are going to postpone Post #7 until tomorrow.

But I did want to quickly cover a viral article that many of you have sent me. The New York Times recently published an article entitled To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This. The writer of the article uncovers an old study in which scientists tried to get people to fall in love by having participants answer a series of 36 questions, each of which became progressively more intimate. The coup de grace was a four minute session where the participants gazed into each other's eyes. Apparently this worked for one couple of test subjects, and it worked again for the writer of this article.

Doesn't exactly fit my definition of science (because it's unclear if this was proven to work aside from the 2 anecdotal examples), but it does raise the question of whether you can be intentional about falling in love. More broadly, can you be intentional about intimacy?

I'd be curious to see what couples who are already together think of this exercise. Check out this website, which has the 36 questions - give it a whirl and let us know what you think!

Also see: Post #6 on expressing your wants and needs.

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